Body Image RANT.

I know I’ve written about this before, however it’s an important issue.
so body image is something that I see feel and think comes up quite a lot in society and in conversations. I was recently having a conversation with someone that with out I think them even realising that what they were saying was really kind of not nice. people struggle with body image day in and day out I am generally an upbeat person about my body but even i have days where it just sucks and looking in the mirror is the last thing i want to do. I’ve noticed that recently it has become a gravitating factor in conversations and thinking, not my body image per say but other woman being objectified by specific areas of their body. I don’t think it is wrong to appreciate certain aspects of the female body but to place such as emphasis on it is kind of ridiculous.

people have personalities and stories and so much more to them than an arse,tits,legs or a belly. I don’t judge guys on how attractive they are rarely It’s more about who they are as people and the impact they have on my life. I am not one to be jealous of others bodies good or not but people out there are and they do get concerned or insecure about there own so ladies and gents worrying about it please know there is so much more to you than just your body.

I don’t really think i am going anywhere with this post that is exceptionally inspirational I just find that a lot of the time I ask myself why does this person care its not like there the next supermodel (male or female) you know? there is more to you than just what is on the outside and yet you still judge people that way its not really fair at the end of the day.

if you’re feeling down about your weight or any physical aspect of yourself remember that it is not the only part to you, your beautiful for so many other reasons and thats what counts.

keep creating yourselves


Monday Mayhem

warning explicit content and swearing..

what is the best way to beat the nothing to blog about blues than sex ?

well not just sex in general but porn and foreplay and all the other exciting aspects of the bedroom. So we all enjoy sex at one time or another whether its causal, romantic, passionate, rough or frequent we all do it, enjoy it (sometimes).

there is very little that is off limits with me to discuss about the bedroom,

1. period and sex (its a thing I’m cool with that not my thing though)

2. Anal i know its popular believe me i know why again just not my thing

3. shaming based on sexual activity that shit ain’t cool and honestly how does it affect your life what someone else’s sex life is like??

I am going to start with porn, i know what it is, i am aware its been around forever but i never really took an interest in it lately I’ve discovered there is a crap load of different types, and most guys watch it so I want to check out the hype about fake televised sex i shall be getting back to you on that one..

let me know what you think would you watch porn with your partner or on your own ladies?

foreplay may not be necessary for men but for women its kind of a given and since we go to the effort of giving you blow jobs as well as sex and endless love its totally not that hard and can build the suspense and make the sex even better so why not try it..

I find it important in my own relationship every now and then to keep it intriguing for both of us but I’m not expert.

even if sex isn’t a top priority for you for any reason it still needs to be there to satisfy the relationship (not always) as well as affection love, trust and all the other components that make a healthy relationship, what are your thoughts on sex,foreplay and porn..

keep creating your sex life ;)


Call Me Changed-Caityln Jenner


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I am a little late to the party on this one, I have been talking to people and collecting my own thoughts before writing this out but I wanted to do a post on the Call Me Caitlyn saga that has unfolded in our media and social media feeds.

I have seen all the different types of feedback this situation is getting even just in my social circles and general conversations.

I am a supporter of Bruce’s decision to become a Caitlyn lets get that out the way first so you know where I stand, I am not just a supporter of Caitlyn but any person that chooses to make the gender transition. I have heard some pretty mixed opinions on this topic and of coarse it is going to be controversial because it is out of everybody’s comfort zone.

My personal opinion is that the publicity for the issue is great and the fact that people are having discussions and shedding attention on this is amazing, even if they aren’t in support of Caitlyn herself. It is a huge thing to have your life publicised and every choice you make scrutinized. To make such a big decision and change so openly to the public eye is incredible exposure, and I know people are frustrated that he is making money from it but that shouldn’t down play the effects it has had in shining light on a very untouched subject. Everybody makes a living somehow and what Caitlyn is doing is eye opening and beneficial to so many to see and to allow even a small amount of people to show support to those who need it rather than more conservative behind closed doors ideals.

I like to take the stance of putting myself in someones shoes or taking the empathetic approach if you prefer on topics like this because it makes it seem a lot more relevant for lack of a better word to myself. I can barely make it through a speech to my classes about topics I’ve studied all semester and that compared to announcing to the world that you have always wanted to be a women is minimal and insignificant. I urge anyone reading this to think about something that scares the shit out of you to do, now imagine that with the whole world watching and judging.

It’s not just about Caitlyn though it is about the every day people that struggle to accept themselves as she did, it is about creating a more accepting understanding even less ignorant world where people can be who they are with out shame and fear. We are taking strides as humanity in being more accepting of things that once seemed foreign or tabboo and it really is time to make that the norm (normal). We are all humans made of flesh, bones, blood and a brain regardless of gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, socio economic status and many of the other defining “labels” we have for one another.

Until next time

Keep creating yourselves


My old school Play list

Hey guys,

This is a short and simple post, I have been rocking out to the old school music from my childhood and thought I would share some of my faves

1. Bare naked ladies one week

2. Wheatus teenage dirtbag

3. Cheap trick I want you to want me

4. Blink 182- all the small things and Dammit

5. My president- coco jumbo

6. B*witched- C’est la vie

7. Shaggy it wasn’t me

8. TLC waterfalls

9. Leanne rhimes cant fight the moonlight

10. Christina Aguilera dirty

11.Nelly ride wit me

12. Spice girls- wanna be

13. Smash mouth all star

14.Baha men who let the dogs out

enjoy and leave me some of your favourites

Keep creating yourselves


Double standards in sexism- On the Bed

Hey there,

So I have come to the realisation recently that a massive issue for me is the double standards in sexism. I am one of those people that aren’t for feminism or against it and I am also not for the male equivalent I am for humans and Humanism. I prefer this stance not only because feminism is a tarnished brush and ridiculed due to social perception and negative connotations but also because I don’t believe you can fight for equality with something that is gender specific.

Feminism had its place in bringing about the beginning of equality to establish women in the world as individual and capable beings in areas they were thought not to enter. In this day and age however instead of people closing the gap between sexism it can be looked at as taking a swing in the opposite direction and the “uplifting” oppression of men (do not get me wrong I am not saying this is entirely feminist fault).

Gender equality is an issue that is hard to fight or have a stance on because no matter what you do you’re wrong, or being misogynistic or misandrist it is an issue that needs to be addressed in equal terms treating each as individuals void of gender.

From a young age we develop these ideas about how men and women behave, what qualities make us different and what toys we should be playing with all of which attribute to our opinions and acceptance of activities of men and women when we are adults.

Have a think if there has been a time when you’ve seen someone doing something and thought they shouldn’t because it’s not what you perceive as appropriate for that gender? Don’t worry it doesn’t make you sexist its just the natural response based on our social learning.

We see these standards on television in advertising all over social media and even in our homes. So what can we do about it? Well in my opinion the HeforShe campaign was a great idea and also not having two separate teams, become one change the face of feminism and NOMAS (national organisation for men against sexism) and just have humanism the equal rights for all human beings? I think that could make a huge difference, creating a united front and inspiring people to unite with you instead of separating themselves from causes we should all be involved in. A great idea if anyone should think to really fire it up is a campaign enlightening the idea of humans all for one and one for all so we may support each other and work together void of our genders being identified as just a person with thoughts, opinions and great ideas.

If you have a differing opinion feel free to leave it below in a respectable fashion of coarse, if you have any other ideas on how we can approach this problem also leave them below I love new ideas.

-From my bed to your screen

Keep creating yourselves


Meeting Bam & Fuckface Unstoppable

 Hey Guys, this week I did something totally random and really out of
my comfort zone I went to a metal concert it was the concert of Fuckface Unstoppable and I met Bam Margera and the rest of the band.

I am not a metal kind of person and I have especially never been to a metal gig I didn’t think I would like the music and really only went because we got to do a meet and greet with bam however I found myself loving the vibe and really getting into the music. It isn’t going to be my everyday type of music though…

I have to say I didn’t like the venue It was tiny I have anxiety and hate crowds and small spaces so it was extremely daunting for me however I got through it with my partner by my side and had one of the best nights I have ever had.

11203184_10153374249157704_6072170840832231060_n On the way to the concert



At the Concert


Bam & Andy at the concert


Bam and his Brother Jess after the show and my partner


Everyone we got the meet :)

In a wrap up it was an incredible night and I am so glad I did something out of my comfort zone, the music and atmosphere were amazing and the opportunity to meet someone I adore was not explainable in words.

Keep creating yourselves and always take opportunities


10 Ways to Defeat Racism!

Originally posted on HarsH ReaLiTy:

1. Have all the whites be owned by the blacks for a few years to even the score. And then black and white racism is officially over right?

2. Finally admit that everyone is really an “other.” The last “purest” was Hitler apparently.

3. Start classifying people by eye color instead.

4. Hope the aliens arrive faster to unite us all.

5. Legalize marijuana around the globe. It is really hard to hate when you are high as shit.

6. Ban the word “racism.” Every time someone uses the word we get to kick them in the nuts or where the nuts should be.

7. Take everyone’s “race card” and exchange them for library cards. People will benefit in the long run.

8. Cut every human in the world and prove we indeed bleed the same color red.

9. Encourage student exchange programs so people can truly feel what it is…

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Dating Game| Change


Hey Guys,

I thought jumping back in with a dating game post was a good way to go, this idea just hit me and that is my favourite way to write when ideas just pop into my head. I have a few little relationships things I want to talk about today, so strap in.

Today I wanted to talk about changing whether its for a boyfriend, a crush, a friend, your girlfriend or any partnership.
Physical aspects such as your weight or height or any aspect of you physically shouldn’t be impacted by a partner, as humans we have enough insecurities about our bodies with out the people we love and admire adding there critique.
this is a massive NO NO for me in relationships any of them even if its my best girlfriend because I have parts of my body I don’t like and the last thing I want is someone else to add to that. all the advice out there says to keep a positive perspective of yourself but that’s easier said that done right? well keeping people around you that have a positive perspective of you is a good starting point.

I have a best girlfriend she has an amazing body in my eyes, she is tall and gorgeous even though she’s just had a baby I think she still looks as fine as before. I am sure any one whose been through that experience has/had there own insecurities and so did she, but that isn’t the focus as her friend I am here to tell her how amazing she is. This girl does the exact same thing for me, I have insecurities about different parts of my body and she is there every time I notice to say but hey you have these amazing qualities about your self too and this makes you beautiful.
having positive friendships that build you up is #1 on my list.

sometimes our greatest critics are our families, I am sure a tonne of you out there have felt that your family are being over critical or there comments have made you feel like shit, It sucks especially cause there family and there supposed to support you, In this instance what I do is remind myself although its hurtful that its not their intention, majority of the time they want what is best and think that telling you is just what you need. [F.Y.I family members its not helpful] if you have a specific family member who is causing you some extra stress talk to them about it.
I had an uncle who used to pick on my weight he had the best intentions but conversations always left me feeling like I would never be successful or appealing to the opposite sex if I didn’t loose weight. I am still struggling daily to change that perspective and thanks to the positivity around me its working :)

Partners are like family your intimate with them you have to bear your insecurities to them and if I have learnt anything about dating it is that it can be the biggest ego boost or the worst hit your self esteem will take. It just has that power. When you get a partner they shouldn’t put down your physical or personality features and if they do think something is up then I would suggest to discuss it in a non critical manner. Since being with my boyfriend certain things have definitely changed, my own motivation and determination has changed but not once has he made me feel bad about my body.

about three weeks ago I was determined I was going to loose weight to be more appealing more successful (I fell in the rabbit hole) and I told him he had to train me make me work out everyday and diet me, he told me we would talk about it when I got here I’ve been here for two weeks and not once has he dieted me or told me I can not have any food I want, he hasn’t dragged me kicking and screaming to the gym and he has made me walk as much as possible over taking the bus, I myself have chosen to do small exercise sessions while he has been at appointments and he always tells me how beautiful intelligent and amazing I am in all the aspects of my life.
I have since climbed out of the rabbit hole and have been reminded of how I can and should be comfortable with me!! (bonus I’ve lost 2kgs and didn’t have a terrible time doing it)

sometimes change is what we want in ourselves, when we don’t like something we want to change it and that is okay no one should be telling you its not okay to do what makes you feel good, just as long as your doing it safely and are aware then who cares. Keeping a positive perspective is just as important as keeping positive people. Don’t compare yourself to other people because you are not them you are the talented unique and special individual YOU.

keep creating yourselves xo

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Previously in Dating Games 


update time, Its my final weeks of my first semester of uni final exams coming up and three massive assignments due this week, I have been busy as hell and believe me it has kind of felt like hell for the last couple of weeks.

I am heading away in three weeks, for a couple of week holiday to penguin island and to see fuck face unstoppable and BAM which i am super excited about. let me tell you I am ready for a holiday.

there is some cool stuff coming up, i am at uni today and i wore high heeled boots and now my feet really hurt!!!!

ooh i have a current obsession known as tell em steve dave podcast shit is unreal!!!

not much else to tell you all,

keep creating yourselves


Obsessive confusion

Hey guys,

How many of you have been in a situation that you have found unbearably confusing where you go around in circles in your head trying to make a decision, it could be the least complicated decision like what to wear to class the next day, or how your going to write the intro to your English assignment, to whether you want to ask your crush out or not, to something as complex as a love triangle or struggling with your internal feelings void of circumstance.

No matter the issue or level of complexity we have all been in this kind of situation where consequences, actions and alternatives are running through our heads on repeat until eventually we drive our self crazy and throw in the towel on the whole situation.

Now that everyone can relate add a whole five weeks of psych study on top of the already repetitive thoughts swirling around heading into what now looks like a cyclone in my head, because not only am I aware of my choices, consequences thoughts and behaviours I am also now acutely aware of where they come from, how they are stationed and what causes them (in theory anyway). I have all these extra reasoning tools and justification options to explain or justify the choices I make, and whilst I am in the process of trying to justify all these action, or theories I am ripping my internal psych and personality to pieces.

Leading to a downward spiral that resulted in an outburst of tears and misunderstanding and sobbing and yelling to a very patient boyfriend, which isn’t really helpful, when it comes to making decisions, so here I am sitting at Uni getting my head filled with a shit load of different ways of looking and evaluating a situation that have actually left me more lost and running to my best friends house as soon as possible.

If you have any tips tricks or ways to work out tough decisions that are obsessing in your head, let me know in the comments?

Keep creating yourself