Current News

Hey Guys,

So I have been AWOL on twitter for months unable to access it and then just forgot in all honesty, we know I am hopeless. Today anyway i got around to getting on twitter and realized I’ve let my knowledge of current events slip with Panamapapers trending on twitter, and the detention centers trending on both, it seemed like I had missed a lot to have an opinion on.

The panama papers I am not really going to dive into as I am not overly knowledgeable about tax evasion or off shore loading ect… but what I will say is that I have faith that some media representatives are searching for the truth and to let the people know what they need too and to hold these people accountable for their actions. Really that’s all I have to say though I will continue following the reports.

The detention centers however have irked me for a long time, I know that we need to process people I get where the government is coming from but it seems we treat our criminals better than these people and those children, I think the system could use an entire overhaul and a little compassion could go a long way, we need to protect humanity, day by day it slips away and people relish in fear and prosecution especially with the media generation and the ability to name and shame anyone or anything so readily available humanities going down the drain and losing its common sense…

so that is all I have on the news currently, I am going to get back to work and then reward myself by watching the 100 – yes I have a new addiction #Bellarke all the way😛

keep creating yourselves xx

Surviving University & Anxiety

I am in my second year of University (my final year) and I am thrilled to have had the opportunity to go to university. Last year it was scary and exciting as I fumbled through classes and assignments, I also endured several panic attacks and bouts of anxiety that weren’t always obvious to those around me. I am now in my second year, which gave me the idea of sharing these strategies for surviving university with anxiety.

Oral presentations is pretty much number one on my list of anxiety provoking situations that involve university, why because everyone is looking directly at you and waiting for you to speak and not only that but you are actually being judged and graded on what you have to say which is to me one of the scariest things to do and yet I have managed to do 4 in my first year of semester and I have some coming up in this one. My tips don’t include the usual tips like picture everyone in their underwear. My first tip is to be prepared practice giving that speech to an empty room a million times or even to a mirror, this is good for being confident in what you’re saying and also for timing yourself to make sure you don’t go over, or too under (always leaving a little extra because your speech will speed up in front of people) I have found that the more I have practiced a speech and know what I need to say the less I get stressed when giving it. My second tip is picking a subject you’re actually interested in two of the presentations I have given have gone well and I was given good grades because I believed in and interested in what I was talking about, although this isn’t always possible make the subject your talking about as interesting to yourself as possible take a different angle on the subject find a small aspect of it that you can become remotely interested in and it will improve your speech and your confidence at the same time. Even though I use these tools every time I give a presentation I am still not confident up there all the time, I shake and sweat and stumble on my words but I don’t let myself get distracted by putting myself down I keep going and applaud myself for getting up there in the first place for facing what makes me anxious and it’s a good feeling.

Talking in class and answering the lecturer or tutors questions is something I find daunting even if I know the answer, because I know people will be looking and paying attention to what I say this isn’t something I really have coping strategies for but I find that if I am confident in my answer or the subject I am more obliged to speak, as well as if I have less people in my class I am more comfortable speaking or voicing my opinion. I know my fear in this situation comes from a fear of rejection or judgement.

Study and study some more, this really is the number one tip I have, I would not have gotten as far as I have if I didn’t study, finding the definitions of things I was unsure about or theories I didn’t quite understand. The Internet and books are your friend and they aren’t going to judge you or make you feel stupid, because well they don’t know who you are or why you searched them. I avoid asking questions again a fear of judgement or rejection so a lot of the time I leave it up to research and study to explain things that I don’t understand and if I didn’t do this I wouldn’t have gotten as far as I have.

Surviving with anxiety is hard it’s an every day battle with yourself and your doubts but it doesn’t mean you can’t do the things you’ve always wanted to do. University was a dream of mine for many years and I never imagined I would be smart enough or able to take the opportunity not to mention how incredibly scary the buildings were and all the other people and yet here I am pushing through all the worry in my head to get there and get it done. In saying all of this don’t stress if some days it’s just too hard I have those days too where I really just can not cope and going outside my door is too difficult and mostly ill push through that but some times it really is too much and I’ve found that, that is okay too, you need to keep your own health in check before everything else.

I hope these help someone in a similar circumstance or someone who has a friend or partner going through this to see another perspective.

Keep creating yourselves

Xx

 

One Year On

I published a post at the start of this year, New Beginnings that told of all the exciting things to come and the start of my university journey, it is now the end of that year and I have a lot to say about starting university.

first things first it is expensive haha, it is also a lot of work. I have been doing study for around 4 years now gaining a certificate and a diploma in my chosen field I really felt this would just be an extension and it is but it has also been way more intense and a lot of work. In saying these things I could and never would regret choosing this path for myself  I have learnt some really great things and had some wonderful and inspiring teachers along the way.

I finished for the year about a week ago and final exams are were I leave all my stress at the end of a semester and this one especially because it is the festive season and I could finally get into the spirit of christmas and do things with my family once my exams were over.

I wanted to write this post more or less to say I am not any less excited or thrilled by university than I was at the beginning of the year it has been the most incredible and humbling experience in learning I have had thus far and I am excited to continue this experience into 2016.

I will be grateful a year from now that I will be graduating and I am sure that will be the next year on post that you see on here. If any of you are thinking of university or college I say go for it, put in the work and enjoy the ride the academics is not all it will teach you.

Keep creating yourselves

xx

Body Image RANT.

I know I’ve written about this before, however it’s an important issue.
so body image is something that I see feel and think comes up quite a lot in society and in conversations. I was recently having a conversation with someone that with out I think them even realising that what they were saying was really kind of not nice. people struggle with body image day in and day out I am generally an upbeat person about my body but even i have days where it just sucks and looking in the mirror is the last thing i want to do. I’ve noticed that recently it has become a gravitating factor in conversations and thinking, not my body image per say but other woman being objectified by specific areas of their body. I don’t think it is wrong to appreciate certain aspects of the female body but to place such as emphasis on it is kind of ridiculous.

people have personalities and stories and so much more to them than an arse,tits,legs or a belly. I don’t judge guys on how attractive they are rarely It’s more about who they are as people and the impact they have on my life. I am not one to be jealous of others bodies good or not but people out there are and they do get concerned or insecure about there own so ladies and gents worrying about it please know there is so much more to you than just your body.

I don’t really think i am going anywhere with this post that is exceptionally inspirational I just find that a lot of the time I ask myself why does this person care its not like there the next supermodel (male or female) you know? there is more to you than just what is on the outside and yet you still judge people that way its not really fair at the end of the day.

if you’re feeling down about your weight or any physical aspect of yourself remember that it is not the only part to you, your beautiful for so many other reasons and thats what counts.

keep creating yourselves

x

Monday Mayhem

warning explicit content and swearing..

what is the best way to beat the nothing to blog about blues than sex ?

well not just sex in general but porn and foreplay and all the other exciting aspects of the bedroom. So we all enjoy sex at one time or another whether its causal, romantic, passionate, rough or frequent we all do it, enjoy it (sometimes).

there is very little that is off limits with me to discuss about the bedroom,

1. period and sex (its a thing I’m cool with that not my thing though)

2. Anal i know its popular believe me i know why again just not my thing

3. shaming based on sexual activity that shit ain’t cool and honestly how does it affect your life what someone else’s sex life is like??

I am going to start with porn, i know what it is, i am aware its been around forever but i never really took an interest in it lately I’ve discovered there is a crap load of different types, and most guys watch it so I want to check out the hype about fake televised sex i shall be getting back to you on that one..

let me know what you think would you watch porn with your partner or on your own ladies?

foreplay may not be necessary for men but for women its kind of a given and since we go to the effort of giving you blow jobs as well as sex and endless love its totally not that hard and can build the suspense and make the sex even better so why not try it..

I find it important in my own relationship every now and then to keep it intriguing for both of us but I’m not expert.

even if sex isn’t a top priority for you for any reason it still needs to be there to satisfy the relationship (not always) as well as affection love, trust and all the other components that make a healthy relationship, what are your thoughts on sex,foreplay and porn..

keep creating your sex life😉

xxx

Call Me Changed-Caityln Jenner

I am a little late to the party on this one, I have been talking to people and collecting my own thoughts before writing this out but I wanted to do a post on the Call Me Caitlyn saga that has unfolded in our media and social media feeds.

I have seen all the different types of feedback this situation is getting even just in my social circles and general conversations.

I am a supporter of Bruce’s decision to become a Caitlyn lets get that out the way first so you know where I stand, I am not just a supporter of Caitlyn but any person that chooses to make the gender transition. I have heard some pretty mixed opinions on this topic and of coarse it is going to be controversial because it is out of everybody’s comfort zone.

My personal opinion is that the publicity for the issue is great and the fact that people are having discussions and shedding attention on this is amazing, even if they aren’t in support of Caitlyn herself. It is a huge thing to have your life publicised and every choice you make scrutinized. To make such a big decision and change so openly to the public eye is incredible exposure, and I know people are frustrated that he is making money from it but that shouldn’t down play the effects it has had in shining light on a very untouched subject. Everybody makes a living somehow and what Caitlyn is doing is eye opening and beneficial to so many to see and to allow even a small amount of people to show support to those who need it rather than more conservative behind closed doors ideals.

I like to take the stance of putting myself in someones shoes or taking the empathetic approach if you prefer on topics like this because it makes it seem a lot more relevant for lack of a better word to myself. I can barely make it through a speech to my classes about topics I’ve studied all semester and that compared to announcing to the world that you have always wanted to be a women is minimal and insignificant. I urge anyone reading this to think about something that scares the shit out of you to do, now imagine that with the whole world watching and judging.

It’s not just about Caitlyn though it is about the every day people that struggle to accept themselves as she did, it is about creating a more accepting understanding even less ignorant world where people can be who they are with out shame and fear. We are taking strides as humanity in being more accepting of things that once seemed foreign or tabboo and it really is time to make that the norm (normal). We are all humans made of flesh, bones, blood and a brain regardless of gender, race, religion, sexual orientation, socio economic status and many of the other defining “labels” we have for one another.

Until next time

Keep creating yourselves

xx

My old school Play list

Hey guys,

This is a short and simple post, I have been rocking out to the old school music from my childhood and thought I would share some of my faves

1. Bare naked ladies one week

2. Wheatus teenage dirtbag

3. Cheap trick I want you to want me

4. Blink 182- all the small things and Dammit

5. My president- coco jumbo

6. B*witched- C’est la vie

7. Shaggy it wasn’t me

8. TLC waterfalls

9. Leanne rhimes cant fight the moonlight

10. Christina Aguilera dirty

11.Nelly ride wit me

12. Spice girls- wanna be

13. Smash mouth all star

14.Baha men who let the dogs out

enjoy and leave me some of your favourites

Keep creating yourselves

xx